12
Jan

What The Bible Says About Sex


– When it comes to sex and our faith, I know that you want to get it right. Our sexuality is woven into who we are and our faith is super important to us, but for Christians, sexuality can also become a battleground. There are so many people telling
us what we should believe and how we should act
and what we should do, that it can be hard to
keep our head on straight and figure out what a
faithful path forward is. I know for many Christians
going to what the Bible says is an important part of their process. Maybe that’s true for you and
so let’s try to cut through all the noise and go
directly to the source. Here are some things that
the Bible says about sex. Spoiler alert: it’s not going to be as clear-cut and helpful as you might be hoping. Some men should castrate
themselves for the kingdom of God, for there are eunuchs, that were so born from their mother’s womb and there are eunuchs that were made eunuchs by men and there are eunuchs that
made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. Matthew 19:12. A woman should marry her rapist and then the rapist should pay her father. If a man meets a virgin who is not engaged and seizes her and lies with her, and they are caught in the act, the man who lay with her
shall give 50 shekels of silver to the young woman’s father and she shall become his wife. Deuteronomy 22: 28-29. Everyone should be
celibate their whole life. I’m telling those who
are single and widows that it’s good for them
to stay single like me. 1 Corinthians 7:8. Premarital sex is delightful and men and women can revel
in the pleasures of sex. Pretty much the entire
book of Song of Solomon. It’s normal for men to
have more than one wife and that’s not condemned by God. Esau, Moses and Solomon for instance, it’s normal for men to have lovers in addition to their wives and that’s also not condemned by God like Abraham and David. The Bible says all sorts
of things about sex. Some of them are really beautiful and some of them are revolting. We have to understand what the Bible is and where its place is in
a faithful Christian life, especially when it comes to sex. The Bible is a central
pillar of Christian faith and it was written by flawed humans doing their best to make
sense of themselves, the world around them, their relationship to each other and their relationship to the divine. We’re called to learn from
it, to wrestle with it, follow it, be inspired by it, but it’s not a step-by-step
guidebook to your sex life. We have to take
responsibility for our faith. So what should Christians
believe about sex? If we want to be faithful
to God and we’re called to wrestle with the big
questions of life, sex included, that’s pretty much what
most of the Bible is. People wrestling with God sometimes right there on the page like Jacob wrestling with the angels to figure out what we should
do and how we go forward. Scripture gives us a
look at the heart of God and so does the life of Jesus, and so does the example set by Christians throughout the ages, but it doesn’t give us a
step-by-step guide book instead you’ve got to figure this out together with the Bible perhaps, perhaps the faith community, perhaps friends, perhaps your family, but ultimately it comes down to you. So then what do we do? Here’s what I think
might be helpful for you. Take some time to think, really think about what your values are. Like set aside even seven minutes, but sometime to really
sit and meditate on this. What are your values? What do you hold dear and
what do you know to be true? Some of this will likely
be informed by the Bible, but remember that the Bible
doesn’t have one clear and consistent message on sexual ethics. Think about big picture
values like justice, compassion, trust, consent, and then start to get
into more nitty-gritty sex-specific stuff like communication, pleasure, consent. You don’t even need to do anything with these values just quite yet. Just start thinking about
them and identifying them. Next week we’re gonna be talking about how you can put together
your own sexual ethic. There’s gonna be work book
there’s gonna be a video, so make sure to subscribe
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list at queertheology.com to make sure that you get that by email, after that’s out, we will
put a link to it down in the description box below. If you have any questions
about sex and sexuality and how that intersects with Christianity, drop them in the comments down below. We’re here for you. We’ll talk to you soon. Bye for now.

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